Compromising….

A relationship is not easy. When you hear that a couple has been married for 20, 50 plus years you best believe that each of them made a lot of compromises along the way. For example, my wife is a night owl. She likes to stay up until the wee hours and do arts and crafts. She enjoys the silence of the night and she feels most creative then. We live in a 1 bedroom so my DJ equipment, computer, and music production stuff is in the living room and her arts and crafts things are in the bedroom along with her desk she works at. I’ll be trying to sleep and she has her little desk lamp on which sometimes wakes me up in the middle of the night because of the brightness. I can be a light sleeper as is, and the bright light just pulls me right out of REM sleep and I’m awake for 30 mins before falling back asleep. We got into a little tiff about it the other night and I talked to a friend and they suggested I buy a dark eye mask to wear when I go to sleep. Now I could be bullheaded and say “NO!, she needs to go to sleep at a reasonable hour and stop having the light on at night”, but that would take from her one of the joys of her existence. So I got the mask and it’s going to work out just fine. She can stay up and I can get a restful nights sleep. That’s the type of stuff I’m talking about. She lets me do my annoying scratching all the time so it’s the least I can do for her. If you’re going to stay together, you have to compromise. It’s very important to not be overly stubborn with your partner. We’re all just trying to find a piece of happiness between slaving away at work and paying bills, so whatever you can do to help your partner achieve that happiness you should do. That’s it for my rant. I’ll try to post a bit more often as I always find myself saying on this blog. Still practicing my scratching and I’ve incorporated some beat juggling practice more as well. I’ll post again before the end of the week on some thoughts about what’s going on in the world right now. Til next time…..